Body positivity is more important than body policing. Eyes on your own paper. We've got a lot of good excuses over here. They're called reality. For more background on this project, click here: http://www.parentwin.com/2013/10/whats-wrong-with-this-picture-why-maria.html

“This blog is part of a master’s thesis project for the University of Florida. By submitting your photos or stories to this public blog, you will be consenting to that information being used in the study, the purposes of which is to determine how the fitspiration message “What’s your excuse” is decoded by the general public. You will be asked for no additional information and participation is completely voluntary. There are no risks, benefits, or compensation in this study. All personal information that you have provided to us will remain confidential unless you otherwise specify. The primary researcher on this project is Darlena Cunha, who can be reach via this blog or at darlena.cunha@gmail.com. Her supervisor, Dr. Debbie Treise at the University of Florida will also have access to this information. If you need or want to contact the Internal Review Board for this project, the contact information is: irb2@ufl.edu.”

 

Anonymous asked
I've got a genuine question: Considering I only ever really see fat women advocating HAES and wanting to be seen as attractive by men, why is it that I see hypocrisy in regards to whom these "body-loving" activists date. I don't see many large women with large men, but instead with skinnier men. Why is that?

Probably it’s because people fall in love with other people, regardless of size or weight. Or maybe because individuals are allowed their preference of body type? As for you not seeing “many large women with large men” how about 1) it’s not your business, and 2) open your eyes the rest of the way?

I don’t know what else to tell you. Your perception is not reality, and even if it were, a thin man and a heavier woman have every right to be together without being (incredibly strangely) labeled hypocrites.

I mean, you can love all body types (sans scare quotes) without being in a relationship with them. It sounds like you are only seeing what you want to see.

dontneedanexcuse:

“I struggle with food every day. In ways that are very hard to explain. I try to keep weight on, but I often get told I’m too thin. Nothing will ever be good enough, so I’m trying to just be happy with who I am.” — c0agulated.

dontneedanexcuse:

I struggle with food every day. In ways that are very hard to explain. I try to keep weight on, but I often get told I’m too thin. Nothing will ever be good enough, so I’m trying to just be happy with who I am.” — c0agulated.

tumtherament asked
I like your blog

Thanks! We like you, too.

Anonymous asked
Wow I feel bad for her husband if she doesn't have a problem with that gut

Probably one of the many reasons she’s not married to you. She probably prefers the company of someone who has a working brain.

Why This Project Is Important - raevennevermore

dontneedanexcuse:

So let me tell you a story about a girl who didn’t love herself. 

Almost two years ago I had started taking these diet pills I found at Wal-Mart. I had no idea what was in them or what they would do to me, all I knew was that they were supposed to make me thin. The truth is that there really wasn’t anything wrong with my body. Of course there wasn’t. But to clarify: I had spent the past three months rehearsing for Rocky Horror. I was playing Columbia and that meant I was actually more physically active than the rest of the cast. I spent three hours a day four days a week in rehearsal for three months. When I wasn’t at rehearsal, I was practicing tap dancing. I was in amazing shape. But I still didn’t look like the women in the magazines or in movies or on television so I still felt like I wasn’t good enough. Enter crappy diet pills. To this day I still don’t know what was in them. But they made me not feel hunger and gave me more energy than I knew what to do with. I would go days without eating and sleeping only when my body finally gave out from exhaustion. 

I was literally killing myself. I was killing myself to look like the women in magazines. Because despite having spent three months sweating my ass off, learning to tap dance and giving the performance of a lifetime three weeks straight, a performance so great that the theatre we were performing at actually held us over for an extra week, MY BODY WAS INADEQUATE. 

Someone who loves me finally managed to get me to throw the pills out. And good thing, too. I fully believed I would have died otherwise. And for what? 

To be “good enough.” 

That’s why this project is so important.
 

Honestly, the whole reason I don’t update is that I love this message so much.

Honestly, the whole reason I don’t update is that I love this message so much.